Contra “The Controlling” Catholic Church: Against the Caricature that The Church is a Stuffy Old Sex Control Freak   2 comments

1. Introduction

“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.” (1 Corinthians 13:11)

As a child coming of age into young adult years, my Reversion to Catholicism is one marked by an initial hatred for The Catholic Church as I understood it. I was the poster child of Progressive Modernist thought who yet embodied a fierce New Age Protestantism about things pertaining to The Church and the surrounding cultural and spiritual developments that I found myself growing up around in. This series is written to rebuke the writings of my Youth, a sort of self-imposed Penance to atone for my own personal ignorance. The writings of my youth are held on the internet at the Yahoo! Voices website, there are 4 Articles written between July to November 2007, just after my graduation from High School. It should be noted that the rebuke is thematically addressed rather than chronologically answered.

The First Article written in July 2007 was titled, “Christianity Vs. True Christianity: A Problem with the Church?” This article embodied perfectly my Anti-Catholic view influenced by Progressive Modernism, Protestant propaganda yet New Age influences at the time. The Second Article written in August 2007 was title, “Church of Christ: The Church is Not the Real Thing!” This article embodied my confusion and the varieties of cultural propaganda set against the Church, this article sounds most like what I hear today, and that I have come to most fight against today. The Third Article was written in the same month and was titled, “Is the Bible Really Full and Complete?” This article was my argument that the Bible was incomplete and that since it has been left to many revisions it is no longer a trustworthy book, this attack the notion that The Bible was the Complete and Final Word of God. The Fourth and Final Article was written in November 2007 and was titled, “My Road to Christian Gnosticism” Here it is showcased for all to see my love of Heterodoxy and lack of understanding of Orthodoxy, of course in celebrating fighting against the superstitious ignorance of the Church I now confess that I was the one being superstitious and ignorant.



II. My Argument Against My Past Self

As a Teenager it’s only inevitable that in a society constantly bombarded by sexual images that I would complain that such an institution is too rigid in its Sexual Ethics department. Obviously, the wider culture has complained saying that the Church is an outdated sexual control freak that either better catch up with the times or else quickly get left behind in the dust. Having already discussed the topics of Abortion and Homosexuality in the previous paper, I wanted to go over the next two sexual topics namely Pre-Marital Sex and Masturbation. After discussing these issues I will move on to what the Church is saying Yes to, amidst these “No’s.”

Before in speaking on Homosexuality I spoke about the Factors of Complete Christian Love, to refresh they are: Free, entirely consensual; Total, nothing held back; Faithful, complete dedication to the other; and finally Complete Christian Love is Fruitful, or open to the possibility to new life. With qualities like these we need to ask ourselves about the 2 issues above. On Pre-Marital Sex, we could grant that it is Free but we can’t grant that Pre-Marital Sex is always Total, Faithful, and Fruitful. The words, “casual/oral/anal sex” all come to mind here, why? All of these are not Fruitful, since anal sex cannot be open to the possibility of new life, oral sex cannot be open to the possibility of new life, and casual sex by its very nature means that one is looking for a fling not to be open to new life. Pre-Marital Sex cannot be Total since both parties are not submitting themselves to each other but are reducing each other to some utilitarian end and finally Pre-Marital Sex cannot be Faithful since it isn’t sealed by an Act of Exclusivity between the 2 individuals involved, rather I can be as unfaithful with multiple partners in one night or in many nights and not be dedicated entirely to one.

On the issue of Masturbation, there’s not even another party involved to consent to, so Freedom of Consent is non-existent or its self-enforcing, there’s no Total giving to anyone, there’s no Faithfulness to anyone (or even worst their is unfaithfulness if arousal addiction is achieved), and last but not least the act of Masturbation is not capable of Bearing Fruit by its very nature. Now people might take this as, “Well then this is a good thing since no one needs to participate in it.” But we must remember that any sexual act needs to be Fruitful, it needs to be open to the possibility of new life, let it alone that the opposite sex needs to be present, so Masturbation is sorely a sin since none of these criteria can even be met, it’s a sad sin as well since it testifies to a person’s loneliness, I think it crystallizes perfectly all sexual sins however, since it showcases the persons selfishness in the very organs that are supposed to be used to give to another.

According to, “The Theology of the Body for Beginners” the Dignity Sex is held up to is quite high since it has the power to determine a person’s way of looking at the world around them and the tremendous power it has to affect those who act it out, whether in a good or bad way and whether alone or with another. The real problem lies in the denial of the four factors talked about, in truth all of us moderns would cringe at the news of sexual bonding that wasn’t free and only some of us moderns would cringe at sexual bonding that was done unfaithfully. Yet we do not so much as cringe at the thought that the sexual act was done partially and we cringe (in the wrong way) when the sexual bonding actually becomes fruitful.

Marriage is the only rational place for 2 Christians to Live in and Act Out Consummate Love, in it one can know with complete confidence that it was Freely Given, Totally Surrendered To The Other, Faithfully Committed To Each Other for the rest of life, and Open To New Life. This is not given to control people it is given so you can rest easy knowing that 2 people will be there for one another, something that we all desire deep down. In the Christian Sense, Christ is the Bridegroom and gives Himself entirely to His Church. The Christian man is called to be like Christ and the Christian woman is called to submit herself to her husband. Not because Christianity is a controlling and domineering religion, but because in mutual submission to one another, the married couple can truly live for one another in confidence that whatever happens the 2 will remain together for life. Controlling and Domineering relationships are the way of the fallen world, but Christ in His Religion comes to restore us back to where we are supposed to be: Monopolistic Control becomes Mutual Surrender; Domineering becomes Humility.

The Church is committed to this “Yes”, and that’s why it says “No” to all the other incomplete expressions of Sexual Union. The Catholic Church and Orthodox Churches are not Puritanical toward Sex, that is a Protestant invention with ties to an ancient heresy called Manicheanism, which saw the Body as Bad and the Spirit as Good, obviously with such a negative few of the body, sexuality would go one of 2 ways either it will be hated and seen as disgusting (e.g. Puritanism) or it will be devalued and perverted (e.g. Hedonism). Authentic Christian Faith saw Sexuality as Good, The Physical Body as Good and Integral to the Human Person and by doing this sought to avoid both extremes. The only person who would fall into both extremes is someone who does not understand the Authentic Faith or is actively rebelling against it. However even if one does not understand, a choice is presented, to try to understand or give up, I say Love makes it worth it to understand.

2 responses to “Contra “The Controlling” Catholic Church: Against the Caricature that The Church is a Stuffy Old Sex Control Freak

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  1. If I could escape from the Catholic Church after 24 years of education in Catholic schools and seminaries culminating with ordination to the priesthood and a teaching position in a Catholic seminary, almost anyone can. I’m not selling anything or telling people how to live their lives. All I want to do is to help people to free themselves from the tyranny and stupidity of the Roman Catholic church, by exposing the truth about this very human, very dishonest organization at a site you can find by Googling “Jesuswouldbefurious” or “CatholicArrogance” (one word).

    • Oh 24 Years, not impressed, Post-Vatican II the entire Intellectual Tradition was beginning to be Jettisoned, its only as of late that we are beginning to recover said Tradition. I don’t know what education you received, but its my understanding that if it was Catholic it was a very watered-downed Catholicism. I see your also a Liberal Catholic based on your sites, just the very ideology that is responsible for the loss of faith among so many Catholics. You sound like me when I was, “a child coming of age into young adult years, my Reversion to Catholicism is one marked by an initial hatred for The Catholic Church as I understood it.” Of course, I had the humility to admit that The Catholic Church is not to be understood by my own limited subjectivism and to let the Church Speak For Itself. The Church is Part Human and Part Divine too, so the imperfections do not surprise me, but I see they surprised you. I feel sorry for people who think that The Church is a Perfect Place, I really do, because they do not understand the Church.

      Oh, P.S. calling Christ a Communist makes a much sense as Calling Hitler a Pacifist. Christ goes beyond the Left-Right Paradigm of Fabian Socialism.

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